There are many negative emotions that can severely impact our lives. These negative emotions—such as resentment, anger, envy, fear, sadness and guilt—all create synapses in our brains. Every time we feel one of these emotions it fires and rewires our minds into a negative state.
We are seeing a steady increase in road rage, workplace bullying, gender disrespect, intimidation, threatening behaviour being experienced in schools, workplaces and social outings.
Negative emotions in any area of our lives can severely impact our quality of life.
The consequences at work can lead to stress—not only affecting those experiencing the emotion but also affecting colleagues—with a potentially devastating outcome for both them and the company. Individuals seen as moody or angry are likely to be avoided by others and this is not complementary to good work practices. The situation becomes worse if the individual has a significant role in the business as it further complicates the matrix of order within the company as subordinates experiencing the wrath have limited recourse against the manager.
Many years ago, I conducted short workshops for branch managers in a company that had multiple outlets throughout regional Queensland. As a follow-up to the workshops, I discovered that the CEO bullied and intimidated these managers with his anger and hostility and they saw no way out as the CEO had significant standing in the community. Ultimately, the managers grouped together and presented their issues to the board of directors and the CEO was dismissed.
Had my understanding and knowledge in those days extended to neurolinguistic programming (NLP), Rapid Transformational Therapy and neuroplasticity, I would have recognized that this CEO had a depth of anger that could have been treated.
In many cases, anger management is treated with counselling; however, counselling does not drill down to discover the root cause of the anger—the how, why, where and when it initially raised its ugly head and began to affect the individual.
Neuroscience understands that many emotional states experienced by adults were initially created in the first seven years of their life, a young age where a child has no means of articulating events and emotions. The beliefs formed during these early years set limited beliefs which typically remain present until unravelled.
As a therapist and coach, I have found that individuals being treated for anger management were confused by where the anger stemmed from. The smallest incident sets them off, leading to stress which affects their professional performance and their domestic lives. As negative emotions compound and increase, they build up until released in a moment of anger, after which, there is usually a short period of calm. Unfortunately, it is only a matter of time before the build-up and release cycle starts again.
Does this sound like you?
You can be helped provided you are willing to work on your emotional issues. We will need to work together to align your conscious and subconscious minds to make progress. Why? Simply put, our subconscious mind is the keeper of all our emotions, it is where we all live 90% of the time. Our conscious mind is our analytical self and governs how we portray ourselves to the public. Change can only come about when both are aligned with the same intent.
Incorporating the best of neuroplasticity, neuroscience and NLP, Rapid Transformational Therapy can help to rewire your mind, preparing you to be the best you can be, releasing you from the bond of stress which is created by your anger.
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