Be Your Best Friend

Having worked with many, many individuals over the past few  decades, the one thing that I have found is an easy way to help clients is to help them  introduced and connect with their “little self” which is a term that I use for the unconscious mind.

The unconscious mind lives in an emotional state, it has no reasoning and no intellect.  So, learning to dialogue and make friends with your “little self” is a matter of imagining that the unconscious mind like a 4 year old child.  You would never say unkind words to a 4-year-old, so why do you say them to yourself and your little self.  You would never be cruel to a 4 year old child so why are you cruel to your “little self”.

The first step to engaging with your little self is to in the first place find a name for your little self .  To do this, just stop, stay still for a moment, sit down, relax, take a few deep breaths in and out and ask the question – “little self” what name would you like to be called? – a name will immediately pop up.

When it does thank the little self for revealing itself to you. It has been with you all along – from the moment you took your first breath and became YOU.

We all talk to ourselves, so why not make it more interesting by dialoguing with the little self with a name.    e.g. Jack, I am feeling so angry today, I am going to take a few deep breaths and then relax”, “(little self e.g. Mary), I am driving to xyx location, can you find me a car-park please” – yes, try this it really does work.   “Mary, what should we do with ourselves today etc”  An answer will come up – just trust it.

My little self is named Jack, and has been for more than 30 years, I don’t know why that name popped up, I just accepted it.

Introducing yourself and understanding that your dialogue should always be the type of dialogue you would have with a 4-year-old can really help you.

It is important to acknowledge that the words you say to yourself are the most important words that you will ever hear so it is important to be kind, always, when you speak to yourself.  Would you berate a 4-year-old child? Of course not.  So stop speaking to yourself in a detrimental way, a harsh way and unkind way.

Life may not be easy, but life can change and it will change the moment you become the master of yours mind and your words.

Give it a try – you have nothing to lose.

If you feel you cannot understand this then why not give me a call for a free 15 minute consultation.  I live in the Noosa region on the Sunshine Coast but am free to chat or if you wish to delve deeper and find out “how, when and why” you may have changed your way of thinking than an appointment with me may be something to consider.  I work one on one with individuals to help them be the best version of themselves using NLP, RTT, Hypnotherapy, CBT and intuition.

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